20 January 2006
These days, I feel like I am besieged by wedding talk. Wherever I go, there's some wedding planning going on. Whether it's in the blog world or in the "real" world, wedding talk is just everywhere. I have friends who have gotten married recently and many more who are actually getting married soon. The first one for this year will be held this Saturday. Unfortunately, I can't make it as I have work the whole day. (Sorry,
It's actually pretty exciting to hear and read about friends' plans for their weddings.
From invitations to the entourage's outfit to the rings to the menu to the souvenirs and even the silverware, everything is looked into by, well, the bride-to-be and the groom-to-be (more by the bride-to-be, i think). Everything has to be perfect. And, I am wont to think that it is the bride-to-be's job to make sure everything is perfect. It is going to be her day after all.
I couldn't help but feel really, really excited as my friends (Bok, Erik,
I could only say, "Sadly, not for us..."
"Kasi sa amin, halos hindi p'wede makialam ang ikakasal sa plans, lalo na 'yung babae. Pamilya ang nagpa-plan." (Because, for us, the bride-to-be and the groom-to-be, especially the bride-to-be, almost have no right to take part in the planning. The whole family does the planning.)
Yes, this is true. This is what's normal in my culture. The bride and groom are actually like guests in their own wedding. Oftentimes, they see the venue for the first time when they finally set foot in the place as husband and wife already. I remember when my cousin was married, we brought her to the venue the night before the big day, but we had to wait for everyone to leave first so it was way past midnight when we finally got her there. My sister-in-law and/or my brother never saw the venue for their wedding before the actual ceremony. We just told/updated them about what was done. Couples, more often than not, do not have a say as to how their wedding will go. I also remember when one of my older sisters got married, she was allowed to choose what kind of invitation they were to use. She was given this "privilege" because it was all she asked for.
Come to think of it, this is actually a good thing (well, if you ask me). I saw how stressful wedding planning could be when
Not being able to plan her own wedding is robbing a woman of one of the most exciting parts of her life, right? It's totally unfair to not have a say about your own wedding, right? Nah! How can you be excited about planning your wedding when you're so busy trying to piece together whatever little things you know about your husband-to-be and form a vivid picture of who or what he might be like? How can you even think of taking part in the planning when, after talking to him a few times (if you're allowed, that is), you don't really have a clear idea, as yet, who the person you're going to sit next to on your wedding day is and what you're going to say to him?
There won't be any need for us to concern ourselves or worry about anything for our weddings. There's but one little thing we could actually worry about and that's the groom! We can only pray and hope that our parents choose someone who would live up to our ideals or, well, at least someone we could like and actually live with. :)
Oh, and believe me, it's not as bad as I probably made it sound... really! :)
13 January 2006
Hay, 2006! May this year be a good one! :)
I read somewhere that it really depends on the person how s/he wants the year to be. If one thinks and believes that the year will be a good one, then it will surely be a good one. So, this is what I'm going to do. I am going to make this year a really good one by being positive! I guess it's all in the attitude and how we take things, right? :)
The year started out great for me. I welcomed the new year with two of my sisters, my aunt and one of my closest friends. We weren't allowed to go out so we watched the fireworks from the window and went crazy dancing and jumping around. It was fun, fun, fun for all of us. And, the first day of the year? We spent it watching TV and just lazing around the place. Hehehe:)
My parents came on the 5th so we had a belated celebration of the coming of the new year. It was really bonding time for me and my sister and our parents. We went around Metro Manila together. It was such a happy time for us because it's been a long time since we all did something together. We were all just laughing and having a great time. Time spent with family really tops everything. I thank God for every single second I spend with my family.
They, all, left for home on the 8th. I was sad, but I didn't have much time to mope because I met with some of my closest friends (my college barkada) that same day because Leyh, one of my best friends, is here visiting. It was another afternoon of fun, laughter, reminiscing and eating. I can't believe how we have remained the same yet so different (changed) through the years. After many years, it still feels like the old times. I love every single one of them to bits and I know this fact won't change no matter where time and chance take us. Insha-Allah. :)
By the way, the Eid ul-Adha (Festival of Sacrifice) fell on the 10th. As I mentioned before (in this blog), this is one of the two biggest and most important holidays in the Islamic World, the other one being the Eid ul-Fitr (End of Ramadhan Feast). The Eid is a time for forgiving and asking forgiveness from anyone and everyone one has hurt, physically or verbally, intentional or not. Hence, I'd like to ask forgiveness from those who actually know me if I've ever said or done something that might have hurt your feelings and from the readers (blog friends) if I've ever written anything that might have offended you or made you feel bad.
Speaking of forgiveness, it has always been a practice of mine to forgive everyone who has actually done or said anything bad to me or about me, intentional or not, every single night before I sleep. I always close my day with a little prayer and I always include people who've hurt my feelings in my prayer. I never sleep without doing this. Of course, I do admit that I'm not really that good a person or anything, but this practice, which I started some years back, makes me feel good about myself and peaceful, and makes me sleep well. I like that.
Anyway, belated Eid Mubarak to everyone! :)
First Tag for the Year
1. The tagged victim has to come up with 8 different points of their perfect lover.
2. Need to mention the sex of the target.
3. Tag 8 victims to join this game & leave a comment on their comments saying they've been tagged.
4. If tagged the 2nd time, there's no need to post again.
1. a Muslim
2. will understand and support me and the things i want to do
3. has plans and ambitions and is determined to realize them
4. someone i can respect, understand and love with all my heart
5. someone i can talk to about anything and everything
6. someone i can really laugh with and be stupid with (has great sense of humor)
7. someone who's not boring and is willing to try new things every now and then
8. someone who respects not only me and my ideas, but other people and their ideas as well
There are more points, but these are the first eight that came to mind.