Love = Heartache?


Does love always come with heartache? When you fall in love with another person, is heartache inevitable? People say that it's not true love unless it hurts you. Is this really true? What about "I love you so much that it hurts?" Is true love really like that?

In my experience, "love equals heartache" holds true. I have loved and lost, I have fallen and, yes, I fell really hard. It broke me to a million pieces and, up until today, I can't say that I am mended. I guess I'm still picking my pieces up and carefully putting them back together. I'm getting there, slowly. The thing is there was a time when I swore love off and I started to hate (or probably even curse) men just because of my experience. But, now, I'm okay with men. I no longer see them as evil. But, I don't exactly know if I'm ready to fall in love again just yet.

A student asked me the question: "Does love always hurt?" I had to pause and think before I could actually answer. And, still, I'm not sure if I answered such question correctly.

What about you? What do you think? :)


Comments

Baby Rockstar said…
It impossible to love without hurting, or anticipating hurt. Because one balances the other.

When you've found the right person, you will know you have fallen in love again when you don't even mind getting hurt, that u let a lot of things pass, that you tolerate more than you usually do.

In short, matchaket akeh. ;-)
10/10/2008 09:48:00 AM
Anonymous said…
with my scarce experience of that thing we call LURVE, i always get hurt.. i always know when i really like a person when i started speculating things, imagining things and the endpoint is me hurting. LOVE=HEARTACHE, that is.
10/10/2008 08:15:00 PM
Anonymous said…
when we love we become vulnerable to being hurt. with love, comes heart ache.
10/10/2008 09:00:00 PM
Anonymous said…
"love doesn't have to hurt to feel good" - according to that atomic kitten song.

and according to paulo- "when we try to control love, it destroys us. when we try to imprison it, it enslaves us.when we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused."

love comes in different sorts and with different companions (pains, sorrow, happiness, bliss). we should give power to love, not its companion.

;-)

nice one d! miss reading stuff here.
10/11/2008 02:22:00 AM
Anonymous said…
Well, when we love, it's natural to hurt, but when we hurt all the time, then something must be wrong...
10/26/2008 06:41:00 PM
Anonymous said…
I got hurt a few times but always picked up the pieces and started anew everytime. In the end I just take it as it comes without any expectations and that's when I found out that love doesn't cause any heartache.
10/31/2008 09:00:00 AM
Anonymous said…
I don't have much experience as well. HEHE.

But what I know is that love is supposed to make us feel better. If you're hurting all the time, then it's not love. We don't have to continue pining for that person just to prove to him or to the world that what we feel is true love.

I miss talking to you, Ma'am Diane.
11/04/2008 03:53:00 PM
Anonymous said…
I agree to Jing's point but we get hurt due to our own paranoia. We create the pain, which can only be cured by ourselves.
11/08/2008 01:31:00 PM
Anonymous said…
Yes love does hurt.I was really madly in love to a very nice and wonderful maranaw woman.But she got married to somabody else.It broke my heart into a million pieces at that time,but inspite of what has happened it did not make any hindrance on my part i still continued my studies and finished my college degree.She invited me in her wedding in which i attended.I graduated on the same yr.and i left for manila in which i vowed not to go back to lanao until i become successful in my own. Love sometimes break you or inspire you .in my case i used it into my advantage by way of making it as my inspiration for what i do in life.Diane my last vacation in 05, i invited her to meet me and i pesonally extended my thanks to her for the inspiration that she gave me.maybe i m one of the lucky ones.thru experience this is how i understand the predicament of being a maranaw woman that you have a limited right in our society, im a firm believer of a woman moderate liberation in our society. Parent should at least give to there daughter to choose there own soul mate after all that is there life to live on.Again our regards to you and your family in genaral.wassallam

--Dante U.
5/04/2009 01:33:00 PM
BabyPink said…
hello kuya dante. tahnks for this. :)

i'd say we (my siblings and i) are lucky because our parents are more of the "liberal-minded" meranao parents. i guess more parents are becoming more "liberal" nowadays, too. it's a good thing to know that you didn't let your frustration hinder you from achieving success. people who work for their dreams really do become successful, and they deserve such success. kudos to you. :)
6/11/2009 12:04:00 PM
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